All Sorts'a Friends

Friendship is a funny thing. You can have friends, make friends, be friends and lose friends. Its almost like friendship is your favourite toy. You can lose your plastic dino at the park, but as soon as you realize, you go get a new stuffed bear. If that bear isn’t working for you, if it’s not your style, you throw it out. You sometimes find toys hiding under your bed, and you pick them up and realize “hey, this is an awesome toy... I never thought I would play with a racecar, since I’m the Barbie type, but wow, this is fun”. Friends can be lost when you drift apart, can be found at school or at youth group, and can be made, when you find someone you like, and get along with. Friends can also be lost, through fights, drama and gossip. Especially gossip. Friendship is also a happy thing. I can remember many good times with friends, tobogganing with plastic bags after exams, staying up all night talking about boys, and much laughter and crazy antics. Friendship is a blessing, but in many ways, can also be a curse. I have met several people who I thought were nice enough, maybe not bestie material, but decent people, who turned out to be huge jerks who I was wrong to trust. Friends can hurt you a lot, if you let them into your life. If you are quick to trust people, and often look for the good in people as I do, you get hurt often. Friends can let you down, and stab you in the back when you aren’t looking. But, in my honest opinion, in most cases, the good times of friendships outweigh the occasions of bad times.

There are also many different kinds of friends. I’m positive that you have met one or more of these friends in your life. Here’s a bunch that I have met and experienced.

The Friend:

Let’s start off simple. This is the friend that you get to know, but not that well. This is the friend that you say hi to, can make small talk with, but wouldn’t tell your deepest, darkest secrets to. You get along well enough.

The Good Friend:

This is a friend that you are closer to than the Friend, but not as close as you are to the BFF’S OH MY GOSH I LOVE YOU LIKE A SISTER friend. This kind of friend you can tell some of your secrets, and you can talk to them about lots of different things, and have sleepovers and such, but you wouldn’t consider them to be your “Best friend”. You hang out regularly, but you probably wouldn’t choose them to be your bridesmaid in your wedding party if you were to get married.

BFF’S OH MY GOSH I LOVE YOU LIKE A SISTER Friend:

This is the friend you tell everything. Literally EVERYTHING. You tell her that you think so and so is cute, what you think about what that girl is wearing (she is wearing shorts in the winter?!? Scandalous!) and everything you are thinking. It’s like you two could be twins, you get each other so much. You can often read each other’s minds and know what each other are thinking. Being around other people with your BFF’S OH MY GOSH I LOVE YOU LIKE A SISTER friend may lead them to being annoyed because you two don’t even need to talk for you two to communicate. I have a few of these friends, and boy, it’s so much fun to hang out with them. This kind of friend is one of the best kinds of friends.

The Gossipy Friend:

This is the friend that absolutely loves to talk. They will tell you all the latest gossip from around the school. This is the kind of friend you shouldn’t tell all your secrets, unless you want them spread around the school. This person is not particularly trustworthy, but they can still be fun! They just aren’t the person you should share your secrets with.

The Frenemy:

Oh, the notorious frenemy. This is the person that pretends to be a friend, but really isn’t. They act nice, seem nice, but really aren’t all that nice. I have no clue why people are like this, as I am generally a nice person and don’t have much drive to do something like this, but there are people out there. Watch out for these people, because they may stab you in the back. This is the worst kind of friend, because they can hurt you really bad. They sometimes gossip about you behind your back to your friends, as I have seen happen before. Be careful around these people, as they may use anything you say against you.

The “Romantic Material” Friend:

This is the kind of “friend” that you are romantically involved with. It could be a boyfriend or girlfriend, spouse or fiancé. Since the first step of a relationship is a good friendship, you and your romantic interest should be very good friends before you move into a relationship. A close friendship is important in a relationship. This friendship should be close, and you can often tell this person as much as you tell your OH MY GOSH friend.

The Quiet Friend:

We all have one of these, this is the quiet friend that is shy and wont talk. They are really introverted, so you need to do some coaxing to get them out of their shell. Once they come out of their shell though, wow! They are often a lot of fun, and can soon become one of your really close friends.

The Crazy Friend:

This is the friend that is incredibly crazy. They are completely nuts. They are so much fun to be around, but can be way too crazy at times. They make life a lot more interesting. I think, and my friends would likely agree, that I am this friend. I am usually hyper and super crazy. But hey, you know being crazy is a lot more fun

So there you have it, the scoop on all the kinds of friends. And I know, I may have missed some, sorry about that!

Peace and Love

-C